“Not only is your story worth telling, but it can be told in words so painstakingly eloquent that it becomes a song.”
It’s nearing the end of 2011, and for many of us, it’s a time of reflection. Reflect upon this passing year, looking towards the upcoming year, 2012, and thinking of any resolutions or goals we desire.
It’s mental cleaning time.
Sweep the floors of your mind, dust the corners, and re-arrange.
But, before you simply ponder your successes, and non-successes, and evaluate what you want in life, just stop.
Stop for a moment, or longer, and listen to your life story.
When’s the last time you heard yourself tell your life story?
Most of us don’t pay much attention to our life story, yet it affects the way we perceive our life, what we expect… it affects how we go about achieving our dreams, or how we let them go.
Many of us aren’t truly aware of what we believe about ourselves. Yet, how we see ourselves largely determines our outcome in life. So, it’s pretty important to get really clear about whether we see ourselves as a Lion, or a Mouse, in this life.
The Benefits of Listening to Your Life Story
1. Clarity and Insight – When we listen to our own personal life story, we can get really clear about how we actually see ourselves. We’ll see if we’re headed for unstoppable self-empowerment, or headed toward defeat.
2. Road-map for change – After you listen to your life story, you’ll have a better idea of how on track you are and how off you might be, You can begin to put together a road map of small steps toward the life you desire. The roadmap will tell you what you need to fix or adjust. It will show you where you are in relation to where you want to be, and it will tell you what might stand in your way, based on your internal point of view. Your life story will show you what your obstacles tend to be, what your patterns are, and it will give you the self-knowledge you need to create a path for yourself.
The process may take an hour, or several hours, so whatever time you’ve got, make a decision to book an appointment with yourself, and tell yourself your life story. OR, even better, tell a friend and listen to theirs. You may want to record it on a digital recorder, you may want to jot notes, but LISTEN.
Keep these questions in mind as you recall your life story:
- Is your story self-empowering, or is it a sad story of someone who was a victim to someone or some circumstance?
- What are the overarching themes?
- Does your story focus more on the things you found joy in, or the things you found pain in?
- Does your story share your successes – the little ones, the medium ones, and the big ones? Or does it share mostly failures and things that didn’t work out?
- As you tell your story do you feel sad, or do you feel inspired and strong?
Be honest when telling your story, and be honest when looking at your overall themes. If you have dreams you want to live, you’ll want to clean your mindset before you continue your journey. If your attitude is filled with fear, limitations, and thoughts of it not working out, then you’re setting yourself up for defeat.
By listening to yourself tell (or write) your life story, you’ll gain insight into what your actual point of view is. You’ll notice that your story has overarching themes and patterns.
Guideline for Recalling Your Life Story
Take the time to do melt into this exercise, and go back as far as you can remember.
1) In your mind, go to the day you were born. Start here. You might describe the family you were born into, or whatever you can think of.
2) Go through each year. You may have no memories prior to pre-school or kindergarten, but take yourself there. It may be best to lie on the ground and close your eyes as you walk yourself through each and every year of your life.
3) Pay attention to the emotions you feel as you go through each year, and look for memories that stand out the most.
4) Can you describe your personality?
5) Can you describe how you felt about situations?
6) Can you describe your relationship with your family members?
7) Can you describe friendships?
8) What were your thoughts of school and home?
9) What were some of the best things that happened, blessings, things you’re grateful for?
10) What were your dreams, goals, desires?
11) What were your fears and stresses?
12) Walk through elementary school, high school, college, walk through your 20’s, your 30’s your 40’s etc… What memories stand out the most?
13) Notice emotional patterns?
14) Notice themes?
15) Notice life patterns (such as making friends easily, or hard to make friends or patterns of success or defeat)
- Did you find yourself discovering turning-point moments where you changed your life, changed your life direction, changed your mindset?
- Did you discover an overarching theme of failure, defeat, hurt, neglect or any other reflection of low self-esteem, negative self-belief, which causes patterns of self-sabotage that you didn’t realize?
- Did you discover that you’re living what you once only dreamed of?
- Did you awaken self-empowerment?
- Did you get crystal clear on what you want to change about yourself, or celebrate the changes you’ve made?
If you don’t like how you see your life story, or you don’t like the themes and patterns; you can change it!
If we take the time to discipline our mind, and keep our thoughts empowered we set ourselves up for success.
It’s a perfect time of year to see how far we’ve come, or see if we got stuck along the way, and re-route ourselves in the direction of our dreams.
Motivation likes to be fed with successes and wins. The more we journey toward our dreams and the more we see it blossoming the stronger our motivation grows. The opposite works too, when we don’t see success or progress we may feel like giving up and being defeated.
Do yourself a wonderful favor, and listen to your life story. Identify your life patterns. See what you need to change within your mind and your habits. See what you have changed and what you’ve accomplished and celebrate your successes, all of them, the big ones and the tiny ones.
When’s the last time you listened to your story?
Have you been able to re-write or re-frame your story, if so has it helped you?