Life transitions are inevitable.
I was in Mexico with G (my husband) and we were looking at the Mayan Ruins. He has a more logical way of thinking about things and I have more of imagery, poetic, way of looking at things. I was visualizing what life was like then and living it out in my mind feeling a bit saddened that it only has some remains and he looked at me and said,” Aileen, it’s life, it’s evolution, things have to change. Trust me you wouldn’t want to live that way.’” Then a tour guide started talking about the beautiful ruin we were looking at “that’s where they performed the human sacrifices” and he pointed out the discoloration on the stone was bloodstains. I put my camera away and stopped dreaming. Yes, life moves and nothing stays the same.
“This too shall pass”…reminds me of the cyclical nature of life and the impermanence of all things.
As a snake sheds its skin, we too shed ours both literally and figuratively. When one phase is over we find ourselves pulling off to the side taking refuge, protecting ourselves from the outside forces as we go through the process of forming our new skin.
We exhale as we recognize and accept the old ways aren’t working and the new way isn’t formed just yet. It can feel like we’re in limbo.
If we are impatient we will wrestle with the stillness that is needed for the transformation as we wildly crave a quick growth spurt instead of the slow itchy transition.
When we are shed our skin acceptance often isn’t easy. There is nothing to latch on to. The ‘in between’ state contains uncertainty, it lacks security, it is unknown.
The most we can ask from ourselves in this state of transition is active acceptance, being present and aware, in touch with what we are feeling and experiencing. The active side of the non-doing is very different from stagnation.
The down cycle of transformation can be a time for regeneration as we connect to a slower pace of active non-doing.
Lately I haven’t been very good with non-doing. My wild enthusiasm has taken over for now. I can be impatient with myself as I try to lead my way. It can be a struggle knowing when to surrender to the road I’m on or take control and put myself on the road I want to be on. Once we know that we are capable of designing our life it can be a challenge to know when to surrender and accept, and when to fight to make something happen.
It brings me back to “If it’s gonna be, it’s up to me” or “If it’s meant to be it will be”. Do I take action or just be? The stronger we become with being in tune to the language of life, the clearer we understand the subtleties, whispers and feelings.
My wish for you today:
If you are forcefully pushing up against walls with exhaustion, I wish for you acceptance to allow it to unfold… to just be.
If you are in stagnation, not active acceptance, I wish to kick you into action
Beyond words there is the language of life. May you hear it. Listen and respond.