Positive Thinking… is there room for “Trying?”

by Kaizen Vision

I was talking with a friend the other day. The conversation is still in my head.

It keeps popping up.

Somewhere in our conversation we started singing… (it’s normal for us to burst into song)…We were singing “Defying Gravity” from the musical. Wicked.

She stopped singing and started talking about the lyrics…

“How come it has to have the word, TRY, in it?” She then spoke the words:

“It’s time to try
defying gravity
I think I’ll try
defying gravity

and you can’t pull me down!…

I’m through accepting limits
‘cuz someone says they’re so
some things I cannot change
but till I try, I’ll never know!”


She got so heated, so angry at the word “try”

She “hates” that it has the word “Try.”

She said, why can’t it just not use the word… it could just be, ‘It’s time to defy gravity…I think I’ll defy gravity’…

She believes you must always affirm something as though it already exists since that is how to manifests it into being.

I do understand her point and I too use affirmations a lot, somewhat obsessively.

I love to affirm that it is already happening. I use affirmations such as, “I’m so grateful to be living the life of my dreams.” “I’m so grateful I got a huge sale today”, “I’m so excited that I’m already over quota this month.” “I’m so excited that everything is unfolding easily and effortlessly.”

So, yes, I agree with seeing it as though it has already manifested.

Believing for a moment that is real and has already happened.

I also feel there is great value in “trying something.”

Try lots of things and be ok with “trying things.”

Sometimes it takes the pressure off of us aspiring human beings.

Last year my beloved man (my Husband) REALLY wanted us to do the 23 mile LA Bike Tour.

I hadn’t been on a bicycle for more than 6 miles at a time and that was over two years ago. It had been that long since I even got on a bicycle.

So, I asked him if he’d be o.k. with me “trying,” and if I couldn’t make it, than I would drop out of the race. He said yes, it’s ok if I “TRY.”

We did practice for the race. We took our bikes out a couple times a week.

Each time we rode a little longer distance. I did have a hard time keeping a strong pace after 10 miles or so. Each practice day I gave it 100% I revved my mental engine to feel positive and excited about this adventure and I gave it my all.

The day of the race came. We had to be there at 5:00am.

When the alarm went off that morning at 4:00am I began my chant:

“I can do this” “I’m so excited” I said it over and over again – revving my mental engine.

I was still ok with “trying” though

At the starting line it was very cramped. …Thousands of bicyclists, tightly gathered, 5:00am dark and cold. …

The race began

My man and I had our headsets on so we could communicate in case we were separated or something happened to one of us. I did my best to keep right behind him. Bikes were cutting me off, going in between; some crashed out… a fallen bike caused other bikes to crash… it was intense.

I was focused on keeping right behind (and off to the side of) my beloved’s bike.

I kept in close proximity and focused on my breath.

…still ok with trying

Several miles in the bikes began to spread out and I had some space. I could breathe easier and no longer felt claustrophobic.

He picked up speed and I allowed that to set my pace. I kept up.

Mid way through I got a second wind. I was excited and energetic. I felt so empowered and unstoppable.

We picked up our pace even more.

We saw our mile markers and knew we were only a few miles from the finish line.

We kicked into high gear and pedaled intensely.

We crossed the finish line in killer time!

I felt so high – so exuberated when they put the medal around my neck.

I DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was so proud of myself for completing that race that day!

I committed to having an open mind and a laser focus, I also allowed myself to stop if I felt my body couldn’t handle it.

I do know that it is important to take action.

It is important to have powerful positive thoughts consistently.

Its ok “to see it as though it’s already happened” and “to affirm it’s already happening” and… it’s ok to “try.”

Just be clear on your intention.

Are you firmly committed to achieving the end goal…or, do you simply want to try and explore?

Either way, it’s fine.

Just know that:

When you choose to be FIRMLY COMMITED to achieving your goal … do not say, “I’m trying to …(achieve this goal)”

Because, you just may get stuck trying.

So…. If you are ok with the possibility of not accomplishing the “goal” – then, feel free to “try” achieving it. If you feel you must achieve the “goal” well then, don’t try – just do.

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